Charbel M. Tadros

Author, Website Designer at Brandpluss, Personality Development Coach, CEO at Future Academy, Immediate Past President of the Sydney Autism Community Lions Club. Media Manager at Oz Arab Media. President of AIM Association

Your personality does not define you!

Never blame your shortcomings on your personality. You're not built that way; you are responsible of constantly rebuilding yourself and seeking perfection by finding your faults and overcoming them.

How many times have you gotten the answer “that’s just the way I am” when people are faced with a problem?

Countless times, I bet!

Better yet, it’s when you get the answer “I’m a Taurus!”

And you probably brushed it off without giving it a second thought.

But now think about it; is it really a valid excuse?

Definitely not! If you look at your own life, you will see that the person you were a few years ago is somewhat different from the person you are today. The things you enjoy, the things you do, even the words you use are different. Then how can this be just the “way you are” when it’s changing haphazardly?

It’s not. This is just an excuse because people are lazy and don’t want to actively reshape themselves. However, they are okay with it when the world or other people change them. That’s the difference between active reshaping and passive reshaping.

Passive reshaping of the personality is a natural process which happens as a way of adapting to changes in the environment. We usually see it most clearly when we change jobs or get married. We don’t have any control over it, and we barely notice it because it happens very slowly. As it occurs, we also acquire some negative habits and allow certain events to get to us and make us lose our grace.

On the other hand, active reshaping is an interesting process in which we are the main choosers. It doesn’t happen as a response to external circumstances, but as a way of perfecting and improving ourselves in the way we desire. However, many people think that reshaping themselves and their personality is a myth and prefer to stick to the idea that this is the way they were built… and, in a way, it does make it so. When people refuse to take control of their personality, they remain slaves to the whims of their ego. Although this makes them miserable, they would rather blame it on events, people, and even god, as long as they are not the ones to blame.

If you decide to reshape your personality, there are many ways to do it. One of these ways can be through taking my Spirit Personality Development Course. However, there are some steps that you need to go through before deciding what you should work on and how:

Step 1: Find out what you like about yourself, and see whether it’s what those who matter to you (family and close friends) like as well. This is what you definitely need to keep unless it’s not making you happy.

Step 2: Find out what your main faults are, and decide what you don’t like about yourself: you may be quick tempered, you may be too forgetful, etc… You can also ask your family and close friends what they think your faults are too. Sometimes, they may see things you haven’t noticed.

Step 3: Make a list of the things you want to work on, and then prioritize it from the most important to the least important. Also, if there are some which are easy to do, start with them because they will give you the motivation to continue. You can also take the personality test I developed which will help you categorize your list and see where your main strengths and weaknesses are.

Step 4: Research how you can overcome each of them. The internet abounds with free techniques that will help you develop any skill you want; however, you should always keep in mind that nothing that happens too quickly lasts. Developing new habits takes time, patience and dedication. If you need any advice, you can always contact me.

Step 5: After you finish acquiring the personality traits you desire, go back to step 1 and start over until there are no more to develop, and you are happy with who you have become.

In conclusion, you need to remember that it’s called “your” personality for a reason: it’s YOURS, and you can do with it what you please. Therefore, take control of it ASAP and reshape it in the way you see fit. It may not be an easy process, but it’s definitely worth it.

Originally posted on August 31, 2020 @ 7:38 am


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